Been a long time since I weighed any charges for C&B revolvers, I have spouts on my flasks that throw the correct amount to fill a chamber and still let me seat a wad and a round ball on top and clear the cylinder face. Not sure how much that dose weighs but it speaks with authority. Not nearly as much as the 1861s hold but I refer to my Pocket 36s as the 36 caliber revolvers with recoil.
As for carrying, a lot of times they are carried behind a belt or sash, in a pocket, in boot tops, or even in a holster. I have made a couple of loop holsters for the Pocket revolvers and use the holsters interchangeably with my Pocket Police, Pocket Navies and the 31s. The 6" barrels make it a bit tough to find the correct size pockets but I have a few coats that can hold them.